I opened an eDM from Danielle La Porte and her team this week, and it came at just the right time. I was starting to feel pulled in a million different directions, and falling back into the “doing too much” trap.
Danielle proceeded to glean wisdom from a friend, asking what we should QUIT doing to make space for what we WANT to be doing. She writes:
I asked Seth Godin what he’d put on his “Stop Doing List”. As ever, he was profound and … clear:
- Keeping score in games I don’t need to win.
- Keeping score in games I can’t win.
- Wasting time on people I can’t please.
- Ignoring the side effects of my personal choices.
- Giving into the resistance without realizing, I was.
- Reading my Amazon reviews.
- Letting other people decide if I was doing a good job.
- Trying so hard when it came to persuading other people to change their minds.
- Making lists like this one. Except now.
- Cleaning industrial dough mixers.
- Walking into glass doors.
- Biking without a helmet.
- Cutting large blocks of Styrofoam while barefoot.
- Working for jerks.
So I’ve started my own Stop Doing List. Here’s where I’m up to:
- Comparing myself to other people.
- Using coffee as a way to mask my natural rhythms. If I’m tired – I want to feel tired because it’s a sign I need to rest. Time to honour the body’s intelligence and say ‘yes’ to it.
- Saying yes to every shiny opportunity that comes up. Instead take a breath and ask, “Is this in line with my values?” If no – kindly refuse. If yes, GREEN LIGHT.
- Gossip. We should all have zero tolerance for this. It’s nasty, a waste of time and energy zapping.
What’s on your list?